Monday, June 25, 2007
6/25/2007 02:57:00 PM Y
Post title : jealousy issue
♥ You'll never know the real me.
Question: Why do I get so jealous when my partner talks to other people?
Answer: When you first connected with your partner and looked into their eyes, it felt like he or she was the only person in the room. As you get deeper into your relationship and call yourselves a couple, the realization hits you: You and your partner are not alone on this planet. There are others! Are they a threat?
When we are in a committed relationship, we assume the connection we have with each other will be strong enough to fend off outside threats. In some ways, this you-belong-to-me-and-I-belong-to-you mentality is sweet; it's the stuff of pop songs and poetry. But sometimes the intensity of that connection is too strong.
When one partner sees everyone whom his or her partner comes into contact with as a potential threat, it is
a sign that jealousy has taken hold. Shakespeare called it "the green-eyed monster," and once it gets a hold of your relationship, it sinks its teeth in and can rip it apart.
What causes jealousy?
If you've got strong feelings of jealousy, it's probably a sign that you don't have enough trust in your partner that he or she is being faithful to you. That lack of trust may be prompted by one of four factors.
1) You may feel insecure about your self-worth. In these cases, either you've been raised to believe, or some part of your inner self feels, that you just don't measure up. Because you don't love yourself, you can't believe that others would love you, so you live in fear that your partner's "true" feelings will be revealed and she will leave.
2) You're prone to cheating on your partner -- maybe even have done so. Knowing what you're capable of, you project that behavior onto your partner.
3) You and your partner haven't yet figured out how to
establish safe boundaries within the relationship
establish safe boundaries within the relationship. Having a tight bond is about building walls around your love with windows that allow others to be part of it -- not doors where competing lovers can walk right in and disrupt your home. Because you don't know what's permissible within the relationship and what's not, you're constantly on your toes.
4) Your mate is cheating on you. Cheating doesn't have to include sex; it often has to do with making emotional connections to others outside the relationship. If your partner is sharing things about your private life with attractive members of the opposite sex, it robs a sense of intimacy from your relationship and leaves you feeling vulnerable.
Knowing the factors that lead to jealousy is an important first step to getting things fixed.
Put your focus on building trust
Put your focus on building trust. If you've got some growing up to do, therapy may help. Both of you have to learn how to set boundaries in the relationship. That requires respecting your mate's definition of limits of outside relationships from the start.
Over time, as trust builds, you and your partner can redefine what feels safe for the relationship. After all, when you've got a great relationship, you want to share it with the world.
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Sunday, March 25, 2007
3/25/2007 03:36:00 PM Y
Post title : [x]: 外表与内在 ：[x]
♥ You'll never know the real me.
[x]: 外表与内在 ：[x]
• 马克吐温说：“人如果能摒弃虚伪，则会获得最大的心灵平静。”—
很多人习惯以外表来判断一个人的好坏，却往往被不真实的包装所蒙蔽。擦亮眼睛看仔细，内涵绝对比外在重要。为什么注重外表？为何去在乎别人的眼光？为何去在意别人的话语？
爱一个人，不是会接受他的一切优、缺点吗？
一个长得帅气的人，有钱有车子，有人们口中的五个Cs。 这样就很了不起了吗？对，年轻有为，有本事，的确是了不起。但爱情不是讲求金钱、身份或地位。爱情无法利用任何东西来衡量。它是单纯的，是无可取代的。
真爱是什么？
真爱其实很平凡。
穿平凡的衣服；
住平凡的房子；
平凡的吵吵闹闹过日子
然后，你还是觉得很幸福。
每个女孩都不许渴望自己像童话世界里的灰姑娘 - 丢了玻璃鞋，然后王子找到了她，从此两人过着幸福、快乐的日子。
灰姑娘变成了公主，受王子的爱戴，但这童话有续集吗？是否有人晓得他们是否能永远恩爱呢？其实，公主和每个女孩一样，只是渴望得到真爱。
一个四肢健全的人可以爱上一个瞎子或盲人；一个身材苗条的女孩可以爱上一个胖子；一个美若天仙或英俊潇洒的人可以爱上一个丑八怪。
这些例子，不都清楚地说明：‘爱’不需要看外表吗？
因为爱是一种很强的力量无形中把两个人前在一起。而能否一辈子在一起，唯有靠两人是否能彼此相信对方，包容对方，还有最重要的是，一生一世只用一颗真心去对待彼此。
祝天下所有的男男女女，早日找到真爱，幸福、快乐。Labels: issue
Sunday, March 18, 2007
3/18/2007 09:42:00 PM Y
Post title : Idiotic SMRT
♥ You'll never know the real me.
[x]: I was SO DAMN PISSED! :[x]
Why nowadays bus drivers are asking the same question when one use coins instead of EZ link card for rides? Arghhs~~
Wonder why buses or any other related to SMRT are getting more high-tech and advance? Where did they receive the money from? Have you ever wonder so?
If not I shall add a tinkling into your head.
First, we use EZ-links instead of old times “fare card” which you have to insert it into the machine and retrieve it back again with a bus ticket.(I find it rather fun n cool though.MissIt!Lols)
Ez-Links are said to be more effective. Conversely, the SMRT are pretty “SMART” too ya!? They eat into our money when people forget to bring out their cards and use coins instead. How many teens of MY age bring IC out? And for god’s sakes, I paid for the rides using coins is cos I FORGET to bring my EZ link card out!!! WTH is it going on in your mind? IF I GOT BRING I WOULDN’T HAVE USE COINS! Bloody ass
I have a CLEAR conscience in admitting my own age and so since I’m really still using CHILDREN fare, I paid for the children fare cost! BUT YOU THESE IDIOTIC BUS DRIVERS ARE ASKING FOR MORE! GET THIS CLEAR INTO YOUR MIND! NOT ALL PPL BRING THEIR ICs OUT AND SO IF THEY FORGET TO BRING EZ LINK CARD, WHAT ELSE YOU WANT THEM TO USE TO PROVE?! It’s not as if I’m one with a child or dyed hair like a graduated student etc etc. If a child who is using coins for his/her rides is paying for the actual children fare, why must you so EXTRA ask for MORE?!!?!?!?!
SMRT made me realizehow they actually gain wealth - Through eating more of people’s money eh? Using one’s forgetfulness too! How cunning can it be?! DAMN!
Nevertheless, I paid $1.60 for that ride back to Jurong station. ONE TRIP FOR AN ADULT IS ALSO NOT THAT MUCH TOO! I’m alighting in a few stops time! Are you trying to tell me I can jolly take the ride to and fro if I find it too much? Arshole! You try that first!
I’m super hot in my head now. Stupid bus drivers who ask me for my identity card and requesting me to pay ADULT FARE! Better not make me see you on the streets, I’ll SHOW you my EZ LINK and PROVE you wrong in asking me to pay adult fare! I’ll make sure you VOMIT out the money and return to me! AND APOLOGISE FOR YOUR IDIOTICNESS! ARSE! >.<
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Thursday, February 01, 2007
2/01/2007 09:42:00 PM Y
Post title : If Ever We Can Choose..
♥ You'll never know the real me.
[x]: Choices Of Life :[x]
??
Ever thought of your life, your future? Have any plans? Willing to accept this karma or pursue your dreams, believing in your own strengths to change your own life.
Life? Fate? Dreams? Hopes? Strength? Death..?
To what extent have you ever thought bout so much in life. Humans are indeed vulnerable and fragile. We simply have no idea when will the Death God pick on us.
When will we fall so sick that we got to bid farewell to this beautiful world that we always not see? When is the last second of our story going to be? When will our last step on this earth be? When is the last breath we breathe? The last thing we hear; the last scenery we see; the last person one will be with.. Giving everything, putting in all your efforts, do they go to show rewards for sure? No..
Certainly, I’m already blessed to have a happy family, still a healthy body, a nice and caring hubby and all my lovely sisters and helpful friends. Being a gregarious girl, I never like to be left alone. Instead, I enjoyed companionship pf those who really cared. They’re the reasons for me to smile and laugh wholeheartedly and genuinely.
I love every moments spent with Hubby and tomorrow he’s coming to fetch me again! ^^ Mmuacks~ Simply love him to the extreme.
Is it a virus or philtre?
I really miss you loads my dear. Anyway hard on you le ba? I suppose you’re about to knock off now since it’s going to be ten? Hope you rest early and take good care of your health and body ya! I need you to be by my side always~ ai ni 184! Huggies~
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Sunday, January 28, 2007
1/28/2007 09:00:00 AM Y
Post title : perplexity
♥ You'll never know the real me.
[x]: Perplexity :[x]
At times, I wondered, “What’s love all about? Happiness or Hurt?”
Indeed, there’s no definite answer. I experienced both Hs, knowing how it feels to be sad/happy with the one man you love.
Surely, I’m still going through life and continuing to learn from setbacks, overcoming obstacles, getting up on my feet and moving on.
However, do you peeps out there know that, I ain’t any strong girl? I’m afraid to lose the man of my love. I understand that I’m still young and that relationships at my age won’t really last that long, wishful thinking huh? But, I wanna believe that there’s still the possibility for such, isn’t it?
Everyone can tell me all those ‘da dao li’ when I’ve probs, but even doing so, do they know how I really feel deep down? I need no advice to encourage me, to urge me to move on. What I need is simply the care that one is willing to give selflessly. I need a shoulder to cry on.. I need someone to depend on.. I need a listening ear to hear the voices in my heart.. I need the love that’s true and generous..
I got my man now, though having no idea how long we’ll last but hopefully… hopefully.. we could be the last and only for each other, can we?
Quarrels and disagreements are part and parcel of a relationship I suppose? But I’ll compromise.. Tolerance is the key to happiness, but of course, there’s always a limit to it.
My love, you know I’m afraid to lose you; I need you more than anyone else does. I wanna believe in our love, you too right? I love you more and more each day, missing you every single minute. You’ve brought me from the starting point til thus far, instilled fun and laughter into my life, I’m really grateful and appreciated every lil single thing you do for me!
As long as I’m with you, I feel the whole world looking at us enviously.. hee
I promise that I won’t say things that will give you the impression/feeling that I don’t believe and trust this love anymore. Sorry hubby, (“ v “) Loves[Yi.Wan.Nian] (:
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Saturday, December 23, 2006
12/23/2006 12:13:00 AM Y
Post title : Lovely or Friendly?
♥ You'll never know the real me.
[x]: My LOVELY FRIENDLY X'mas :[x]
Messages with great wishes for this coming Christmas.
A joyous festival we celebrate.
Crowds everywhere and presents filled the air.
Excitement grows each day.
I sat by my window thinking:
How am I celebrating this year?
I closed my eyes and crystals fall
No longer a LOVELY night
I have my friends
I shared those smiles
I feel the happiness
But yet I yearned much more
I wanna spend with one loved man
To See the lightings
To feel the festival
To hear the merry song of x'mas
This night, I thought of him
I wanted to see him
And I really miss him
But all I could do is to hold back my feel
Baby, you should know how much I wanted to spend it with you rather than with others. I know I've got friends who are willing to accompany me but the thought of being with you, holding hands, side by side ...
What more can I ask for other than a sweet x'mas with a man I love? Anyway, everything's over and I shall enjoy my x'mas with them. They're the ones always there for me.. Loves! ^^
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I'm the only witness
and the only person who can judge my life.
This is my blog so
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I don't wanna be
COMPARED no more!
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I wanna marry HIM and have his KIDS
I wanna live on my own - preferbly with my Boy
I wanna be
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I prayed on that silent night for someone to share my life..and there you are..
Life is never gonna be the same ever since you entered into my life..
Obstacles that might come in our way, I believe we'll pull it through together
Vows and promises I made to you.. I swear they'll be true..
Ever since I have fallen so deep in love with you, I know I can't resist to love you more each day.
U are my future.. my love.. my ONLY one..
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